Posted On May 15, 2014 By In Advice For Women, Girlzone

The Importance of Broing Out


We start off throwing sand at them in the playground, calling them over in Red Rover, and aiming for their faces in dodgeball. Boys… no matter what age we are as ladies, we can’t live with them, and we can’t live without them. Most of the time, ladies (obviously including myself) are complaining about the dude who didn’t call us back. As we bitch to our girlfriends about some guy that should be chasing us, if we’re fortunate enough, we have platonic friendships with the male species that can give us the low down. While it’s extremely important to keep your girlfriends close, it’s also just as beneficial to cherish the established relationships with your guy friends. Dudes keep it simple and honest, but most of all, when they love you as a friend, they really teach you how a lady should be treated and vice versa.

The dudes in your life will be there to drink beer with you and give you a hug when some idiot breaks your heart. The best part about the latter, is they’ll at least offer to kick his ass and reassure you that you’re better off. Guys don’t overanalyze the small stuff and neither should women… but we do. Your boys keep it real 100%, and the last thing they want to see is their friend cry over someone who isn’t worth the tears your guy friend is wiping away. Just remember, this dude would never break your heart because he’s your boy, so why should some other guy?

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I’ll be the first to admit that I over-analyze cryptic text messages and I’ve been known to hold a grudge. And really, I think just about any lady can say the same. However, most guys will get mad, and then just let it go. Take this lesson from your dudes and run with it. Your boys let you be mad about an issue (or minor detail) for a normal amount of time, and then at some point they expect you to let it go. This includes the instances that your temper tantrums are geared towards another douchebag. Simply put, listen to your bro – let it go. Your levels of stress will diminish and your skin will thank you later.

While your guy friends are there to pump up your ego, they’re also there to keep you close to planet Earth. Great friends will tell exactly what you want to hear when you need to hear it, but they will also tell you what you don’t want to hear when it is absolutely necessary for you. The minute you unleash your inner-bitch or display Stage Five Clinger behavior, your dudes will definitely call you out on poor conduct. Again, listen to them or watch them walk away from you. Trust me, you’ll appreciate it in the end because you’ll eventually recognize these attributes unfold before they do. The rest of the society will thank you and your guys for ditching that menacing attitude.

There are times that I look at my SnapChat in shear horror because I am almost positive that my bros sent me the wrong snap. I’ve been mistaken every single time. I know I’m not the only lady that feels that way too; however, I end up smiling as the clock ticks because I know they include me out of pure love… I hope. Boys include others in their pact out of respect and because they enjoy your company. They won’t waste their time being fake to one another, and they definitely won’t waste a SnapChat video on people they don’t like.

Ladies, cherish the friendships you have with the dudes in your life because they will always have your back, and even better, they’ll be your first line of defense when you start seriously dating someone. At the end of the day, they want to see their girl happy and treated the way a real princess should be. You’ll recognize red flags quicker and have even more respect for yourself and emotions because you surrounded yourself with men who wouldn’t allow for anything less. What’s the coolest part about broing out with the dudes? They’ll treat you like a friend and that’s really all that matters.

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Samantha is a sugar-loving, California-girl, fulfilling her dreams in Boston. She graduated from the College of the Holy Cross in 2010 with a Sociology degree, and uses her background to thoroughly people watch at the airport. Her gypsy-soul brought her back to Beantown after calling Connecticut and Texas home during her post-college years. You can follow her on Instagram or Twitter: @SammySurface.